Since you been gone
Even patients’ warmest relationships with staff can’t provide what mates and mums can – not least for obvious reasons of appropriate boundaries! Being in hospital, and specifically a mental health hospital, makes contact with friends and family very welcome for most patients. The hugs, the concern, the latest anecdotes about what the kids have been up to, the chocolates and magazines. But visiting or even speaking on the phone with a loved one who is acutely ill can be daunting and distressing and staff can do much to ease this experience. Providing information and support not only helps friends and relatives understand and cope with what is happening, but also prepare for when the patient leaves hospital and may well be relying substantially on their help to manage back home.
For some friends and relatives, it’s a huge relief when their loved one is admitted into hospital. They may have been really worried about the person’s state of mind and ability to continue coping at home, and may (especially if they’re the person’s carer) be desperate for a break from the responsibilities and anxieties. But alongside this, they’re likely to have all sorts of questions and fears about the person’s condition and the conditions they’re experiencing as an inpatient. It’s easy for patients and staff to forget how scary it can be to have to wait for the ward door to be unlocked, and then suddenly to find yourself even temporarily secured in a ward with not only your loved one but a whole load of other people, some of whom are behaving very unconventionally.
As ever, a cup of tea ideally accompanied by a biscuit and chat goes a long long way to helping visitors feel welcome, safe and confident, about themselves and their loved one. The issue of confidentiality often soon arises, even with the most general of questions like “So how is Bev doing?” Ward staff are usually very skilled at responding in a way that is in keeping with the patient’s wishes about who they want to know what, and there are some good resources (see below) with practical examples of how to handle confidentiality.
As well as the crucial role that patients’ friends and family play in their lives and therefore their recovery, there’s also the importance (and legal requirement!) to provide information and support to carers themselves. The Trust’s comms team may take a leading role in providing printed information and forensic services often have social workers involved. But most of the responsibility (as ever!) remains with ward staff themselves and with their networks of contacts and services.
A little note from Marion Janner (founder of Star Wards)
Ideas for supporting friends, family and carers
- Set up a carers’ support group
- Provide a tour around the ward for carers
- Provide one-to-one support to family and friends if required
- Make information on mental health accessible
- Teach listening skills to carers (see TalkWell)
- Offer advice and information on carers’ support, including community support groups
- Introduce a ‘carers buddy system’
- Display published (eg in local newspapers) carers’ stories on the ward
- Explain the importance of an ‘advance directive’
- Introduce carers to your Patient Advice and Liaison Service (PALS)
- Use a hospital or ward website to inform and educate
- Teach carer how to be an advocate
- If okay with patient, welcome friends and loved ones to ward rounds – or to consultant appointments if ward rounds have, mercifully, been replaced
- Invite carers / friends / family to ward community meetings
- Invite carers / friends / family to current affairs groups
- Get family and friends involved in creating a timeline of the patient’s life – especially useful for patients with memory problems and those with dementia
- Create a space, notice board or area on the ward just for carers. Display useful advice, ways to get involved and tips.
- One member of staff is a carer support link person.
- There is a Carer’s information pack on the ward that can be provided to the Carers depending on what info they request.
- Named nurses provide relevant information to the family and carers.
- A nurse and a carer jointly run the carers’ support group which meets monthly
- Apart from visits, patients stay in touch with their children via having leave, writing letters, regular phone and Skype calls, sending and receiving pictures and photographs.
- Making cards, small gifts in OT and arts’ sessions.
- There’s a fabulous scheme in some prisons – Storybook Dads, which helps sustain the vital emotional bond between prisoners and their children by through the men recording bedtime stories on CDs and DVDS.
- There are also some great ward examples in Idea #61, Kids visiting including:
- On admission it is identified whether or not the patient has children of their own, and if there are other children in their lives who they want to be in contact with during their admission.
- There’s a conservatory which is a family visiting room.
- The family room has lots of big plastic toys, donated by League of Friends.
- The Trust gets discount from Early Learning Centre.
- The family room can be booked which helps monitor children visiting.
- Nappy changing facilities and a toddler toilet are available in the room next door to visiting room.
- Patients’ artwork is on display in visiting room and corridors.
- Patients have planned to use the games in the Visitors Room for when befrienders come to visit them.
- Communication about visiting arrangements: including in patient information booklets, (attractively and welcomingly!) on noticeboards, through carer support networks etc.
- Visiting times are flexible to make it possible and comfortable for another adult to bring kids in to visit.
- We have a fantastic family room within the unit which can be used from 9am to 9pm. If it’s okay for the patient to leave the ward, it’s just a matter of bleeping the unit co-ordinator to unlock it.
- There’s a family room on each ward and it’s close to the main entrance so children are safe and don’t through the main ward.
- Our shiny new bespoke Child Friendly Visiting room provides a discreet, safe environment for patients to meet with their families and friends away from the busy ward; providing them with the privacy and dignity that we believe all families have the right to expect within an acute Inpatient setting. All furniture, fixings and toys have been purchased specifically for this area, with children aged up to 8 at the forefront of our minds – oh what fun we had!
- A ‘Family and Carer’s Information Brochure’ has been produced. The brochure covers a range of relevant topics such as information on the Mental Health Act, Care Programme Approach to what carers will be expected to bring when they visit the unit.
- The ‘Carers Dialogue’ group provides a forum where carers and relatives of service users can meet with the management and staff caring for their loved ones on a daily basis.
- The ward has a video-link to help patients maintain regular contact with their family members. The video-link meetings are facilitated by the Carer Avocate. This enables patients and carers to speak with and see each other regularly via the link.
- A carer event was held to help provide information. Carers reported that it was helpful to see the environmnents patients lived in and it helped put them at ease.
- A carers newsletter is regularly produced.
- Patients are encouraged to invite their relatives to their CPA, to utilise the visitors room, to have visits in the hospital grounds or to go out with their relatives with staff support if required.
- Visitors are encouraged to visit outside of therapy times, but it is recognised that this is not always possible.
- Depending on the individual we try to ensure that family visits can assist with the patients individual therapy programme so that relatives have a direct involvement. This is demonstrated by one patient where his father takes him out during therapy time, but the patient will assist his father in DIY tasks which goes towards his vocational aspects within his programme.
- A relatives Support Group is in place with attendance by the MDT, all visitors are provided with information about the hospital including the patients guide.
- All patients have a named nurse and key worker who will support the patient in making contact with their families. Likewise there is an expectation that the patients home community team will be involved in this process.
- Patients will agree a budget with their Occupational Therapist, this money is provided by the hospital. Patients are, when required, encouraged to utilise some of this to enjoy activities with their relatives, whether that be meals outside of the hospital or other specific events.
- All patients are provided with the Patients Guide on admission which includes advice on visiting arrangements.
- Visitors are encouraged to visit outside of therapy times if at all possible.
- Patients are encouraged to invite their relatives to their CPA, to utilise the visitor’s room, to have visits in the hospital grounds or to go out with their relatives with staff support if required.
- There are two visitors’ rooms, one of which is available for children’s visits if required.
- All patients have access to religious and spiritual leaders who will be asked to meet with those patients who do not have visitors, if the patient wishes.
Good practice ideas
Courtesy of Tracy Collard, Carer Engagement Lead (Greater Manchester West Mental Health NHS Foundation Trust)
- Matron hotline for carers
- Advertised on bookmarks regularly given out
- Carer educational events with a specific focus on:
– Spiritual care
– Personalised budgets/direct payments
– Healthy lifestyles
– Carer confidence
– Specific conditions
– Physical health care
– Welfare rights
– Coping strategies, resilience building
- Attending for lunch or coffee and meetings
- Dementia lead in CCG’s given a focus to carer involvement / needs
- Carer champions
- A carer’s choir group
- Carer support workers
- Using technology to obtain ‘real time’ feedback
- Data base of carers (needs)
- E learning for staff on carer issues
- Regular involvement of carers in planning and carer views recorded in notes and MDT meetings, and this to be audited
- Caring text messages
- Email/Twitter to obtain carer views
- Use of pre-paid envelopes to obtain carer feedback
- Suggestion boxes to receive anonymous feedback
- Pamper days
- Bake off events
- Carer champions in each service
The Word from the Ward
- I love writing letters to friends and designing cards for them. And I don’t have to worry about finding a post-box because the staff put it in their mail system!
- My Dad would come in and take my for long walks in the local area in the afternoons.
- I kept in contact with my friends by text until I felt well enough to see them. They really understood.
- My sister is looking after my children. It means I know they are safe and I can concentrate on getting well.
- Sometimes my visitors would stay for too long. It’s ok to ask visitors to leave, especially if you are feeling tired. Remember you are your number one priority.
- I gave information leaflets about my diagnosis to my family and friends. It really helped them understand where I was coming from and that given time and support I would return to being me.
- I wrote a letter to my partner letting him know how much I loved him and thanked him for always being there for me.
- My family were really involved with my care. They were given regular updates about me which stopped them worrying.
- I always felt awful straight after my visitors left so the staff made sure I had access to the gym at this time and I’d go and play badminton with one of them until I felt better
- When my friends visited last they couldn’t believe how friendly their welcome was. They were particularly taken with the cup of tea and biscuits given to them on their arrival
- The people who really mattered in my life bothered to come and visit me. That confirmed who my real friends are and strengthened our relationship.
- As I got better my girlfriend could see we still had a future together. Her love and support kept me going.
- When my mind was whizzing with negative thoughts I would open up to my visitors or staff. Taking about what was bothering me really helped.
- I’ve been on the ward quite a few times now. One thing I’ve learnt is to not stay in touch with too many other service users. It’s probably a personal thing but I find it too overwhelming knowing lots of people with mental health conditions.
- I thought my loved ones wouldn’t wait for me to get better but it turns out they have more patience than me.
- All I cared about when I was admitted was who was going to look after my cat. We made it a priority to get it organised.
- My dog never judges me. He is just simply by my side no matter what. His visits were extremely special.
- My dog is the one person who has never let me down. It took a while to gain that trust with other people.
- Once a week we had a group dedicated to keeping in touch with those not in hospital. And if we were struggling with how to do that we could help one another out and get advice.
- You just need to be around people who know you when you’re going through this. I was lucky enough to have friends and family come to see me every day. I think it makes a world of difference.
- My family have learnt a lot about my symptoms. Before I came in hospital they didn’t understand. But staff gave them information sheets which explained everything I go through.
- Keeping an eye on your responsibilities outside of hospital is important. Whenever my partner comes in we talk about things like bills. This stops me worrying unnecessarily
- I’ve decided not to come back into hospital. I’ve learnt who the people who matter are in my life and I’m going to build my own support network around me.
- One setback and I totally lose my hope. My family know that and they bring my dog to see me on days like that. We just go for a walk on the grounds and I find the strength to start again
- My family visits me every evening without fail. Knowing they’re coming in helps me focus on something good.
- All I could think about on admission was ‘who is going to pick up my kids and take them to their swimming lessons’…luckily there were various agencies that helped pick up the pieces and allow me to concentrate on recovering.
- Feeling overwhelmed is definitely one of my triggers. Before I came in I felt overwhelmed by almost everything including looking after my kids. The ward served as a safe haven. Some people might think it’s a copout but for me I needed that safe distant in order to feel safe.
- Most people like seeing their family but I don’t. I like seeing my friends and they were made to feel very welcome and when I had my leave we had already planned a fun afternoon out with the help of my key-worker.
- We had a big meeting when I was first admitted so that the people who depended on me when I was in the community were looked after. I needed that peace of mind to enable me to start looking after myself
- I might not have a good relationship with my family but I sure as hell love my dog! His visits were the highlight of my week
- My decision not to have any visitors is as important to me as having lots of people visiting them is to other patients.
- The staff make sure there’s a room for me to see my family when they come in.
- I couldn’t make my appointments outside of the hospital so my appointments helpfully came to me. They didn’t seem to mind and it meant I could spend my leave doing fun things with my family.
The Triangle of Care
The Triangle of Care has been written by the fabulous carer activist Alan Worthington.
It sets out a vision of, as the title suggests, a triangular partnership between staff, patient and carer. The six key elements it identifies are:
- Carers and the essential role they play are identified at first contact or as soon as possible thereafter.
- Staff are ‘carer aware’ and trained in carer engagement strategies.
- Policy and practice protocols re confidentiality and sharing information are in place.
- Defined post(s) responsible for carers are in place.
- A carer introduction to the service and staff is available, with a relevant range of information across the acute care pathway.
- A range of carer support services is available.